We get it, we've been there, we understand it all.
You want to talk about what you're going through with people at home, but they just don't understand.
Because not being able to talk about what's really on our minds, feeling ashamed of our feelings and thoughts, not knowing if someone will really understand without telling us we should probably leave our partner...
...is a heavy burden to carry.
It weighs on you in the back of your mind and heart.
Because the more we shut down, swallow our truths when we long to speak, the more anxious and obsessive we get.
Most likely you don't speak about what you're going through with people around you because you don't if they will understand (and most likely, they don't) and you're terrified of hearing that you should leave your partner, get triggered and feel judged.
Oofh, it's so hard, because a part of you longs to speak, to express what's on your heart, but if you do, you've gone deep into reassurance compulsions and you're worried about what others are now thinking of you or you're swallowing your words, pushing down every thought that wants to speak up, which makes you feel 100x more alone and heavy.
And the loneliness can add up inside and spill in out in ways where you might project on to your partner, blame them further and keep you trapped in the spiral of obsessive thinking.
So you may finally reach out someone, and that someone is a person who finally understands ROCD, but they're walking alongside of you too, and you're not sure if they're feeding into your reassurance and making your ROCD worse, and they're struggling too...
Here's what we've noticed after working with ROCD/RA ourselves and working with 10,000+ of clients all around the world.
In this journey of healing from ROCD, you will...
😔 Have moments where you want to give up and want to leave (and be really close to it).
💥 Feel like you're alone in this journey of Relationship OCD and that no one understands.
😴 Have times when you should be doing the work, but you don't have true, good accountability to keep you going.
😓 Wonder if anyone else really gets you.
🌹 Crave motivation and inspiration from someone who is "ahead" of you but the comparison stories just make you more triggered and far "behind".
BUT, this is what happens when you get the right support you deserve...
🥰 Feel saved from moments when you're about give up from leaving your partner.
❤️ Feel extremely supported, know you belong even if your friends and family don't understand, you know you have people who understand you.
✨ Understand when and how you should be doing the work - you have accountability from people who understand and it doesn't feel lonely, you feel supported and can move forward easier.
🙏🏻 Feel motivation and inspiration from people who are "ahead" to keep going (and all of a sudden, you're there).
-You're tired of wishing you were understood and seen with the deep suffering and struggles you hide from other people. You're tired of wasting your time and energy on trying to educate people who do'nt really get it
-You want to be heard and truly witnessed in your story without holding back.
-You want to hear other people say "I understand" while hearings others and thinking "Wow, I understand"
-You crave to be held in a community that feels safe, where you don't have to hear triggering phrases and be left alone with your thoughts that keep you spiraling. If you do spiral, you know you have a place that brings you back home.
-You want honesty and accountability in your journey of healing. Not the honesty that says "you should just leave your partner" but an honesty that shows you your blind spots while knowing that relationship requires work.
-You want someone to pull you out when you're at the edge of breaking up with your partner and ending it all.
-You want to feel motivated, inspired and excited to hear from people who have walked the path before you, who are now showing you the way.
-You are longing for a feeling of home and community, where you're being seen and helped in this lonely journey.
THEN...The Awaken into Love HOME is the right place for you to be simply human, as there's no judgment, only openness, care, and true compassion, here.
💥 4x weekly 75-minute LIVE call per month with your peer support mentors, people who are there to guide and support you in your personal ROCD/RA journey.
😍 Trained mentor & peer-support facilitator who will hold a safe, loving and non-judgmental at-home online space for you to share your story, benefit from the wisdom & support of others in a non-reassurance and compulsions-free guaranteed way.
🌹Meet other people around the world, make actual friends, and come as you are, as we are all on this journey together (no shame, no judgment here!).
✨ Be held accountable with the work from mentors and your community.
our HOME...
“It made me feel seen and feel like I have a community where people understand what I am going through.”
“Awaken into Love literally saved my life”
“It’s been so transformational for me”
“I remember always thinking "what is wrong with me"?, "why can't I have a normal relationship like everyone else?" or "am I even just not made for relationship"? and feeling just so confused. I felt SO relieved when I found AIL, finally someone understood me"
"This community has been such an amazing resource for me through my ROCD journey. Without this amazing group, I’m unsure where I would be. "
"I have been attending AIL group program for the past few months and it has quickly come to be an important source of support. Kiyomi holds the group with generosity, kindness and wisdom, and the community she has created is special. Having the opportunity to speak about experiences of ROCD and witness the experience of others has been really powerful and I have felt seen and heard in a way that I had never previously felt. I work as a therapist and the insight I have gained from it has found its way into my work with my patients in all sorts of surprising ways. Being in the group brings up a lot, and it can be very vulnerable, but it has been absolutely worth it."
- KIC member, therapist